Some women need to understand that the era from post WWII until 9/11 was a blessing. A few were able to avoid a harsh reality of this sick world to which we belong. Now we must understand that reality forbids such freedom of choice and we must all work harder and split the efforts of home and career evenly, regardless of our biases. Men shouldn't feel that they can get by solely as a bread-winner. They must be responsible for themselves with household chores and outside tasks. This assembly line of the household where one spouse makes the widget and the other makes the whatzet and the children put them together, does not allow for a 21st century couple to make it today. There are barriers to acquiring basic resources that can only be overcome if we work together. There is no rest for the loving.